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There are stories you’ve never told. Not because you didn’t want to—but because there was no safe place to put them.So your body held them for you. For many women, IBS isn’t just a “sensitive stomach.”It is the physical expression of years of swallowed feelings, ignored instincts, and emotional wounds that never had language.Your gut—the most primal part of you—becomes the keeper of secrets no one ever asked you to share. And like all things held too long, it eventually begi

Your Gut Remebers: How the Apology You Never Received Is Still Making you Sick There are wounds that break skin…and there are wounds that break silence. Most women carry at least one wound from an apology they never received — the “I’m sorry” that would have softened your childhood, validated your pain, or told you that what you lived through wasn’t your fault. For some, it’s a mother who hurt you but never acknowledged it. For others, a father who was absent or present in al

Stomach Aches in Teen Girls: The Emotional Warning Signs Parents Often Overlook When I look back on my teen years, the signs were always there. They weren’t dramatic. They didn’t come with fainting spells or emergency-room moments. They were quiet, subtle, and easy to dismiss: I complained of stomach pain and heartburn but insisted, “I’m fine.” I missed school because I felt nauseous but didn’t want anyone to worry. I was called sensitive when really I was overwhelmed. I trie

Chronic abdominal pain suffering without explanation, suppressed trauma, chronic stress. Spoiler Alert: Medical School Cured My IBS (not for the reason you think)— And I’m Here to Show You How to Heal Too If you’ve ever lived with chronic abdominal pain, IBS, fibromyalgia, or symptoms no doctor can explain, this story is for you. And yes, medical school cured my IBS, but not for the reason you think. The truth is: you don’t need a medical degree to heal. You just need the one

When we think about obesity, many of us focus on calories, food choices, and exercise. But what if I told you that one of the strongest predictors of obesity has little to do with what’s on your plate? Instead, it relates to what happened in your childhood. The Impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) include events like physical or emotional abuse, neglect, witnessing violence, losing a parent, or growing up in a household filled wi

It Ends With Me: Breaking the Generational Chain of Pain, IBS, and Trauma A young woman standing strong, light shining on her,...

The Ache in My Chest Wasn’t My Heart After All Exploring the hidden emotional and psychological causes of chest pain in young women, as portrayed by this symbolic image of stress and healing. I remember the nights when I thought my heart was failing me. The sharp pressure, the crushing ache, the racing beats that pulled me into fear. Emergency rooms became a familiar place. I sat under fluorescent lights while my blood was drawn, my heart was scanned, and my body was monitore

A girl sits alone with her head down, clutching her stomach in discomfort. Her expression reflects both physical pain and emotional distress—capturing the silent suffering many girls experience when trauma lives in the body as unexplained stomach symptoms The gut is often referred to as the "second brain." And for good reason. It’s packed with nerve endings and constantly communicates with the brain through the vagus nerve. When a girl experiences emotional stress, neglect, o

IBS in girls is often linked to emotional stress, trauma, and chronic people-pleasing. When girls suppress emotions and try to stay...

IBS in teenage girls is often linked to emotional stress, trauma, and chronic people-pleasing. When girls suppress emotions and try to stay “perfect,” their nervous systems become dysregulated, triggering gut symptoms like stomach pain, heartburn, nausea, or vomiting As a Teen, My Stomach Hurt More Than I Let On I was the “good girl.” The helper. The peacemaker. The one who always smiled, said yes, got good grades, and never made a fuss. But what no one knew—what I didn’t eve

It starts with a whisper—a little cramp here, a flutter of discomfort there. You blame it on stress, hormones, or that second cup of coffee. But over time, your gut speaks louder. Bloating, gas, constipation, diarrhea, excrutiating abdominal pain —your digestive system becomes unpredictable, a daily reminder that something isn’t right.   A doctor might diagnose you with Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) , one of the most common gastrointestinal disorders in women. You’re handed

The Diagnosis That Changes Everything—And Nothing I still remember the day I was diagnosed with Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS). After years of unpredictable stomach pain, bloating, and the constant fear of not knowing when my symptoms would strike, I finally sat in a doctor’s office, hoping for an answer. Hoping for relief. The doctor reviewed my tests, sighed, and gave me a name for what I had been experiencing. "You have IBS." I nodded, waiting for more. But what followed w

Why Do People Dread the Doctor’s Office? For many, visiting a doctor feels like an exhausting, frustrating experience rather than a step toward healing. You sit in a waiting room for an hour, only to be rushed through a 10-minute appointment where you leave with more questions than answers. You try to explain your pain, only to be told it’s stress, anxiety, or “just part of getting older.” It’s no surprise that so many people—especially women—say they hate  going to the docto

Fibromyalgia is a complex and often misunderstood condition that affects millions of people worldwide. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), fibromyalgia is a disorder characterized by widespread musculoskeletal pain, chronic fatigue, sleep disturbances, and cognitive issues. Despite its prevalence, many individuals struggle to find effective treatment, and the exact cause remains unknown ( CDC, 2022 ). What Is Fibromyalgia? Causes, Symptoms, and

Healing is not a straight path. It is a journey filled with twists, turns, and unexpected detours. Some days, you will feel as if you are making great strides, and on others, it may feel like you are back where you started. But this is not failure—this is healing. Healing is not linear. There will be good days and bad days, moments of clarity, and moments of deep emotional pain. Healing is like tending to a wound—it must be opened, cleaned, and exposed in order to heal proper

Gentlemen, If you've ever thought, I want to help, but I don't know how , you’re in the right place. While modern medicine addresses...

When Trauma Takes Up Residence in Your Body For years, I carried the weight of childhood trauma, rejection, and emotional neglect—and not just emotionally. My body became the unwilling storage unit for years of suppressed fear, pain, and anxiety. If trauma were luggage, my gut was the overstuffed suitcase struggling to close. As a child, I experienced physical punishment, abandonment, and fear, and in response, I did what so many of us do—I buried it deep. Out of sight, out o

Welcome to Hear Her Heal (HHH)—a dedicated platform for women struggling with chronic pain, IBS, fibromyalgia, and other invisible illnesses. If you've felt dismissed, gaslighted, or unheard by the medical system, you're in the right place. This is where your voice matters, your experiences are validated, and your healing begins. Why I Created This Platform I am Dr. Su, a physician and former patient trapped in the cycle of unexplained chronic pain. My personal battle with Ir

Ladies, if you’ve ever had a urinary tract infection (UTI), you know it feels like your body is throwing up a giant red flag. It’s uncomfortable, disruptive, and often arrives with a message we don’t always slow down to hear. For many women, recurrent UTIs aren’t just random bad luck or biology gone rogue—they can be a sign that something deeper is going on. The UTI Cycle Too Many Women Know Too Well The routine becomes painfully familiar: Antibiotics. Cranberry juice. Hydrat

A Boundarista is a woman who fearlessly protects her peace, her time, and her well-being. She says no  without guilt, drops toxic obligations like a bad habit, and prioritizes herself without apology—because she knows that setting boundaries isn’t selfish, it’s survival. And here’s the best part: Boundaries don’t just reduce stress—they actively promote healing. When you stop overextending yourself, your nervous system finally gets the memo: You are safe. You can heal. Ladies